Sex education through porn is not the real deal
Ravi’s friends kept talking about girls and sex to the point where he felt left out of conversations because he was the only one in the group who had no experience. To even make up an imaginary sexual encounter he knew nothing. So he decided to watch porn to learn more on sex.
Have you been watching porn and convincing yourself that it’s educating you on sex? You may want to reconsider that! Porn doesn’t educate as much as it contaminates and distorts. It contaminates the idea of sex within the bounds of a committed relationship and distorts our view of a healthy relationship.
Pornography corrupts your thoughts on sex
Think about this- what you view in porn is not real life. It is the definition of reel- life! Everything is scripted from start to finish. There are no emotions involved such as love, attachment or compassion which are the trademarks of a good relationship. It is all produced with the aim of “shock and awe”. This is not how sex ordinarily works.
Pornography affects your sex life
It’s true. After occasionally watching porn, couples have been known to engage in less sex than before. Not only is watching porn heavily time-consuming, but it tends to also make their real-life relationship look mundane in comparison to what they are watching. Any sex education you may think you are receiving from porn is officially useless since you’re not actually investing in your relationship in real-time.
Education can be obtained in alternate ways
If you feel you need to know more about sex this may not be the best educational tool. Any education you need is best received when you are involved in a real, live relationship (with a human being). If you’re in a relationship and are looking to further educate yourself porn isn’t the answer. When you exclude your partner in your desire to know more you endanger the relationship on so many fronts. You find that your gratification is now heavily self-involved and doesn’t benefit your partner.
Relationships are so much more than sex
Truth be told, the best relationships are not built on sex but on so much more. They are built on mutual understanding, selflessness, kindness and good communication. Without these as the foundation, a relationship will suffer. Sex is not the be-all and end-all of a relationship.
Get real
Be honest with yourself and admit that you have been using porn as an escape mechanism from your reality. Ask yourself questions to determine what lies at the root cause of your need to keep watching it. You will need to be sure you know that this is not an educational pursuit and in fact can be downright harmful to you in the long run.
Supplement it with real help
If your relationship has been struggling or if you have been having any other battle on a personal front make sure you get help. Viewing pornography will be counter-productive when you have real issues that need genuine help. Get off your device and find a counsellor or life coach who can help you get focused and back on track.
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